A friend told me today that something I said about my husband made her think, and also made her go tell her husband how much she appreciates him.
I thought it sounded like the making of a blogpost!
I don't talk about Billy on here near as much as I could. But that is mainly because as Real Simple magazine pointed out in this article on FB etiquette, nobody wants to read about somebody going on and on about how much they love their husband. Even if you think its sweet, it would get old. And it may come across as though you are bragging about your relationship. As one friend pointed out, people who have to talk about how fantastic their husband is all the time...may not actually have a fantastic husband afterall!
But you see, readers...I DO have a fantastic husband.
So why need to talk about it, eh?
Why not save the brown nosing for Father's Day?
Well...that is because of the afore mentioned conversation with my friend. She and I were discussing the fact that our husbands work so hard to provide for our families. We agreed that we have to be cautious about saying things like "we don't have the money to do those things." or "I wish I could buy this or do that, but my husband wouldn't want to spend the money." It comes across as though you somehow wish your husband could do more for the family.
That what he does do is not enough.
My husband works 2 jobs and gets paid to write and edit on the side.
There is not anything more he could do.
He is gone every week day, works 3 nights a week until 9:00, and Saturday afternoons. We don't see a whole lot of Daddy around here. And sometimes it gets me down and makes me sad.
But mostly it makes me so appreciate that I have a husband who is willing to literally work until exhaustion to provide for us.
He was selling some guitar equipment on Craigslist this week and a guy came over to buy it. Billy pulled out his new guitar to demo the products and the guy mentioned how great that guitar is. Billy said, "yah it is... it took me a year and selling several things to finally get it!" I chimed in..."for every child that we have, Daddy gets one less guitar!" Billy smiled at the guy and nodded. Not in a feigning annoyed look, but in a genuine..."that's right and it is OK by me" look.
I know there is so much more Billy would rather do on payday than to go to the bank to get out cash for grocery and gas envelopes, I am sure he would like to actually buy some clothes every once in awhile for himself instead of forking it over for the kids every other Friday. And I know he would rather eat out at Kobe Steakhouse on the weekend instead of Kid's Eat Free at Dickeys BBQ. But he doesn't complain. And he spends all his free time with me and the kids, cancelling plans cause "he misses us too much". And he actually chooses to fold clothes, bathe kids, change diapers, vacuum, and empty the dishwasher...almost always without being asked. OH...and I forgot to mention but had to come back and add this: he disciplines his kids. ALL the time.
That is huge for me.
He also calls me atleast 3 times a day every day.
I joked with another friend that we are practically dating...we tell each other everything.
Nine years of marriage and it is as beautiful of a relationship than I could have ever hoped for.
Yes, my husband is pretty fantastic.
And I thought I ought to say it every once in awhile.
I thought it sounded like the making of a blogpost!
I don't talk about Billy on here near as much as I could. But that is mainly because as Real Simple magazine pointed out in this article on FB etiquette, nobody wants to read about somebody going on and on about how much they love their husband. Even if you think its sweet, it would get old. And it may come across as though you are bragging about your relationship. As one friend pointed out, people who have to talk about how fantastic their husband is all the time...may not actually have a fantastic husband afterall!
But you see, readers...I DO have a fantastic husband.
So why need to talk about it, eh?
Why not save the brown nosing for Father's Day?
Well...that is because of the afore mentioned conversation with my friend. She and I were discussing the fact that our husbands work so hard to provide for our families. We agreed that we have to be cautious about saying things like "we don't have the money to do those things." or "I wish I could buy this or do that, but my husband wouldn't want to spend the money." It comes across as though you somehow wish your husband could do more for the family.
That what he does do is not enough.
My husband works 2 jobs and gets paid to write and edit on the side.
There is not anything more he could do.
He is gone every week day, works 3 nights a week until 9:00, and Saturday afternoons. We don't see a whole lot of Daddy around here. And sometimes it gets me down and makes me sad.
But mostly it makes me so appreciate that I have a husband who is willing to literally work until exhaustion to provide for us.
He was selling some guitar equipment on Craigslist this week and a guy came over to buy it. Billy pulled out his new guitar to demo the products and the guy mentioned how great that guitar is. Billy said, "yah it is... it took me a year and selling several things to finally get it!" I chimed in..."for every child that we have, Daddy gets one less guitar!" Billy smiled at the guy and nodded. Not in a feigning annoyed look, but in a genuine..."that's right and it is OK by me" look.
I know there is so much more Billy would rather do on payday than to go to the bank to get out cash for grocery and gas envelopes, I am sure he would like to actually buy some clothes every once in awhile for himself instead of forking it over for the kids every other Friday. And I know he would rather eat out at Kobe Steakhouse on the weekend instead of Kid's Eat Free at Dickeys BBQ. But he doesn't complain. And he spends all his free time with me and the kids, cancelling plans cause "he misses us too much". And he actually chooses to fold clothes, bathe kids, change diapers, vacuum, and empty the dishwasher...almost always without being asked. OH...and I forgot to mention but had to come back and add this: he disciplines his kids. ALL the time.
That is huge for me.
He also calls me atleast 3 times a day every day.
I joked with another friend that we are practically dating...we tell each other everything.
Nine years of marriage and it is as beautiful of a relationship than I could have ever hoped for.
Yes, my husband is pretty fantastic.
And I thought I ought to say it every once in awhile.
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6 friends commented!:
This is a beautiful post Laurie. You're right, complaining about our lives or about what we don't have or wished we had can make our husbands feel unappreciated....we should help build them up, especially because sometimes the world can be so cruel.
This post is genuin and from the heart. It shows the beautiful side of marriage. I'm glad you took the time to honor your husband.
Oh and that friend you mentioned thinks you're one pretty awesome person. (*wink)
He is pretty fantastic and I'm so glad y'all have each other. There's nothing better than a daddy who loves his Lord, loves his wife, loves his kids and loves to work. What a blessing!
Pretty fantastic! I like this post too :-)
I LOVE this post!!! It's nice to know there are other people out there that actually like their husbands and appreciate them. I always hear other women complaining about their husbands, to me that IS annoying.
What a great post! Thanks for sharing about the amazing man your husband is, what a good example to the rest of us!
He is a great husband and dad. But behind every great man is a great woman. I bet Billy could write a book about how wonderful you are.
And thank you for reminding me to thank Dave more then I do. So busy these days it's easy to forget to take care of each other.
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